A Buzz Word or Simply a Way to Be?
In recent workshops (on leadership, managing stress, group coaching) being authentic and what it means has attracted quite some attention.
Who, I wonder, has experienced a person in their life that they were totally in awe of when they first met them? In awe not in a fearful, overwhelming way, but in a way that left you wanting to spend more time with that person. Giving you a sense of trust and comfort with huge respect for the person. People like that radiate an energy that is contagious and attract quiet attention and impact. Have you got one? Keep that person in mind whilst reading this article.
Before diving into some of the stories that emerged from the workshop discussions, I’d like to look at my observations about what is considered by the currently so popular term of AUTHENTICITY. In other words looking behind the scenes of this big word, to see what elements we need to bring authenticity to life.
Looking at the world of authenticity on the mind map above, it becomes apparent that there is no single attribute responsible for this magic term. Rather, it is the combination of many elements that we develop over time.
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Authenticity creates Trust. But Where Do we Start?
How important are honesty and sincerity, when someone is attempting to build trust? What fears get in the way? Does a lack of trust encourage people to be dishonest and insincere to cover up their insecurity?
Those are some of the questions that come to mind when we talk about being authentic and creating trust. It makes me wonder how a rift, created through a lack of awareness about the impact of a certain behaviour that we automatically run results in massive distrust, can be repaired.
Occasionally, people recognise that something needs to change in order to re-establish the balance of trust. Yet - the expectation is usually for something external to change. It is what we know as the flight/fight/freeze reaction. Our automated defence mechanism, our personal Ministry of Defence, if you like. Not looking at it means the world is as is – all is good. Want to hear more? Read on here...
Tankstelle - Recharging Your Batteries
There are several ways to recharge after an intense period of life or work. There is an awful lot of talk these days in the media about mindfulness and the power of meditation. When we started to introduce these tools years ago in our workshops people were still very suspicious about them. Meanwhile, both have been recognised almost as a skill that helps everyone to lead a more balanced life.
What works well for you to recharge? How do you deal with things that drain you? ... and what do you notice in respect of your agility (flexibility)?
Brainwave is a wonderful mobile app which is perfect for a quick recharge throughout the day. In addition here is a guided meditation for those quiet half hours.
Quote of the Season
When I began to love myself, I was able to recognise emotional pain and suffering as a way of warning, so that I don't live against my own truth.
Today, I know: This is what it means to be authentic."
— Charlie Chaplin—